What Military Children Know

The month of April is designated as Month of the Military Child. This month recognizes the more than 1.7 million children who have a parent currently serving in the armed forces – active duty, reserve and guard. Their sacrifices are unique and extraordinary. Their sacrifice is real. Their stories are ones of courage and trust. And, they know so much about a life of service and duty.

Military children know grit. The military uses the term ‘resilience’ to describe the resolve and bravery of the families of service members. It takes endurance, strength, and heart to be a child of someone serving. Military children today have only known a nation engaged in conflict. As a result, they have endured extended absences, deployments, trauma, and loss. Many have had a front-row seat to witnessing the all too-real effects of war. And, yet, they persist. 

Military children know change. Whether it be across the country or across an ocean, they know how to uproot and start all over making new friends, finding new interests, and learning new routines. They know how to knock on the door of the new military kid who just moved in down the street welcome them with a treat and a smile. They adapt to life of ambiguity as the needs of the military fluctuates often and without notice. And, yet, they keep on moving.

Military children know how to keep things simple. From building a home to fostering friendships, military children know it doesn’t have to be complicated. While their zip code and wall colors may change regularly, a home is not about the physical characteristics. A home is about being around those who matter most to you. It’s about having a place to land for a hug and a nap, but being okay when the place changes every two to three years. Military children also know the simple equation for relationships – it’s being kind, learning from each other, and making memories. It is not about distance or time or quantity. These factors do not define a relationship and can easily complicate things. Military children know to be open to being friends with someone even though the relationship may take on many forms. And, so, they endure.

So, here’s to the military children who navigate in a world of change and conflict. During this Month of the Military Child, let’s make sure they know our appreciation and support.  Let them know our love.

Tomi Dechant
Tomi is a mover, shaker, and baby maker - which means she enjoys a good dance party in the kitchen and is a mom to two monsters of her own creation. Tomi is from Kansas and is currently a Political Science instructor and author of the children's book, How to Make a Monster Smile.