To Me, With Love

We live in a society where everyone has an opinion and yet hardly anyone has the willingness to be vulnerable and open to tell you their truth that backs that opinion. So here I am as a mom, sister, aunt, daughter, friend, divorce’ but more importantly as a person sharing with you a letter that I wrote to myself after my second marriage ended. 

Hey you, 

There are a million cheap-seats in the world filled with the people who will walk in and out of your life passing judgment and hurling advice at you. Their only contributions are criticism and fear mongering from the sidelines because they will never be brave enough to live boldly, take the risks and own the consequences in the way that you do. DO NOT let them dishearten you and do not give them the power to make you feel as though you have to pick up a shield and hide yourself and your beauty from the world. They have the ability to turn their head and look away if the light you are shining is too bright for them to handle. 

Your heart is the treasure trove – not only does it give you life,  but it is the metaphor of your ability to love and be loved. You are imperfect, unorganized, awkward, and too busy at times but you are also tenacious, savvy, tender-hearted, open, kind, independent, loving, courageous, driven, beautiful, persistent, inspiring, and a fighter.  You weren’t raised with the skills or emotional practice needed to take on vulnerability or confrontation and have spent the majority of your life “buying a bigger rug to cover the stains in the carpet”, rather than standing in the middle of and owning your true authentic self; shortcomings and all. You have worked hard, so hard, to get to the place where you are unafraid to look your demons in the eye and love them for everything that they have made you.  You have  to protect this with all that you are. Don’t pull hatefulness close to your heart. 

You have cried buckets of tears through the heartbreak/disappointment of your marriages ending and yet, here you are carrying on because you want better for your children and there is no shame in that. Don’t let another person tell you that you need to wait “x” amount of time or until your children are grown to love again, instead look at that person and tell them that love and compassion have no timelines or roadmaps. Hali, you don’t know what will come and you never can, but you DO have the ability to know that you gave it your all…even when it was too much for others to understand or handle and oftentimes when you felt as though it wasn’t enough. 

In the moments where you feel incomplete and scarce refer back to this quote:

“Every time we break agreement with our very own authenticity we are giving our power away to others. Don’t allow other people’s comments, judgments, actions or non-actions pull you away from the true essence of your sweet soul. Your authenticity is what the world needs!!”

-Kimberly Rolandson

With Love, 

Me

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