Dear Husband,
Do you remember back when we were engaged and we would get all sorts of marriage advice? I remember hearing that the secret to a good marriage was to never let the kids come first, that our relationship should always take top priority. We eagerly nodded our heads in agreement, knowing we would never be the couple that put our kids before the romance.
Well, here we are. Nearly five years into our marriage and two kids later…and the kids are coming first.
Somewhere among the diaper changes, late night feedings followed by exhausted days, nap schedules, dinnertime battles, dance parties with endless giggles, and seeing adventures in our community through a child’s eyes, our lives went from grown-up to kid-centered.
But here’s a plot twist: I’ve never loved you more.
Ever since I was a little girl, I imagined one day having a family of my own and becoming a mom. Yes, there are days that are long, but this life is truly a dream come true. You didn’t know it, but tonight I peeked in as you were reading a bedtime book to our daughter. Seeing her curled up in your lap as you both laughed at the story made my heart swell – the same way it does when I see you scoop up our son and toss him into the air and his smile is almost as big as his belly laughs. You are a fantastic father and although I think you’re oh-so handsome, this is your most attractive trait to me.
We know all the words to the Trolls soundtrack and can name the pups from Paw Patrol with ease, but the other night when we were watching an awards show we were laughing because we had no clue who any of the young celebrities were. We know the places where kids eat free, but our list of restaurants we want to try on date nights continues to grow longer. We get so excited to do new activities with the kids around town but we haven’t been to a movie or concert in years. Our kids have transformed us and taken over our lives, but would you want it any other way now?
Of course I absolutely enjoy our date nights and look forward to that small bit of time we get each evening after the babies are in bed and it’s just us. I know how important it is for us to have uninterrupted conversations and quality time together without distractions. But I also love who we have become in these days when we are creating memories with our babies and helping them learn and grow. There is absolutely no one else I’d rather go with through this journey than you, and I will never stop choosing you as my partner through life. Thank you for understanding and agreeing that in our home, love – for each other, for our kids, and for our family – will always come first.
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This is beautifully worded.